Why Not Me? Why Not You?

A few years ago, I randomly walked past an apartment building I didn’t live in, on a block that wasn’t mine, and I just stopped, overwhelmed. I knew I was meant to live there. But it was such a reach at the time any normal person would think it was impossible.

I didn’t fully understand what I was sensing in that moment, only that it felt like my Future Self brushing up against the present. It wasn’t about the building. It was about who I knew I was becoming and whether I believed I was worthy of the life I felt pulling me forward.

At the time, I didn’t feel certain. I felt challenged. Overwhelmed. Confused by an awareness that seemed to defy reality.

But then I asked myself a question that would end up shaping everything: “If someone is going to live here, why not me?”

About a year later, that building became my home.

Fast forward three years, and that same question resurfaced in a much more vulnerable way during the application process to NYC private schools for my son, Porter. The school we knew was right for him was a huge reach, and the odds of us getting in were very low.

From almost every direction, we heard the same thing: “He’s never going to get in there. No one gets in there. And definitely not if you don't have connections”...which we didn't. 

It wasn’t said with malice. It was presented as a fact, with the statistics to back it up. It was repeated so often and with so much certainty that at one point, my usually quiet, even-tempered husband interrupted out loud to a crowd “factually, it was untrue. Kids get in every year.” 

So why not Porter?

If you’ve been anywhere near the NYC private school application process, you know how intense it is. Extraordinary children. Impressive families. Limited seats. Interviews, observations, recommendations. It’s a system that doesn’t just evaluate readiness; it measures fit. Worth.

We were told how this process was supposed to be done: hire counselors, follow scripts, prepare Porter for interviews in very specific ways…shape him into something polished, rehearsed, and traditionally impressive.

But that’s not who we are. And I knew the right way in for Porter was to let him be exactly who he is. We still showed up, did all the things, went to all the events, and were very involved and VERY intentional in the process. But with each step, even though at times we were tempted to do it like everyone else, we knew that at the right school, Porter’s and our authenticity wouldn’t be a liability, it would be the reason we got in. 

Early on, I felt deeply confident in Porter. Of course he was worthy. But as the process wore on, something more subtle crept in. Not doubt about him, but old stories about me.

“Was I worthy of this life? What if I was the reason he didn’t get in?”

There’s nothing about me that would disqualify Porter…my fearful thinking was just that gnawing program we all have running in the background of our subconscious minds. Not necessarily in an obvious, disruptive way. Just in the subtle way you assume someone else must be more legitimate, more prepared, more “meant” to be there than you.

And I refused to disqualify myself or my child before anyone else had. There were spots that would be filled. Why not by him?

I’m not going to lie. I had to do a lot of work to get myself to a place where I stayed in equilibrium. The whole experience is actually what inspired me to create the Manifestation Made Simple challenges. I had to keep my head in the right place, so I started recording these activations for myself. They would later become the Manifestation Made Simple Foundations Challenge. 

Because there are so many layers we have to address when we manifest. And it can get confusing and complicated if you don’t have a defined process. I needed to be efficient, organized, and precise in my approach, and I knew there wasn’t much margin for error.

When Porter’s acceptance letter came on Monday, it didn’t feel like we had won. It felt like the timeline had caught up. Our life reflects the Future Self I have been carefully and intentionally creating for years. One that required a hell of a lot of work to embody. But it was so worth it.

Because here I am. The woman and mother I always knew I was, with a son who knows exactly who he is.

All those years ago, outside a random apartment building that is now my home, I didn’t just feel my Future Self, I felt the quantum reverberation of all of my future dreams. My manifestation had another manifestation attached to it, both of which I am now living as my reality.

And I am so excited for what comes next…

My Manifestation Made Simple challenges are the perfect blend of addressing the cognitive mind, the subconscious mind, and the energetic body to smooth out the road to the quantum. This month’s challenge is focused on Self Worth, because self worth is not optional. It’s structural.

We use neuroscience, meditation, journaling, and prayer to shift the way you think and expand the way you live. And my pro-tip is to pair up the Self Worth challenge with the Foundations challenge. Do one in the morning and one in the evening. It’s the perfect combination, and it’s still less than 20 minutes a day.

If there’s something you’re wanting to call into your life, these challenges are it. This is the method to embody. This is the way forward into the life you know is meant for you. Join now, and hold on to your hat :)

Manifestation isn’t about convincing the world. It’s about deciding who you are before the world decides for you.

If there’s something you’ve been told you can’t have and you’re ready to stop carrying someone else’s certainty…the SHIFT with Jamie membership is the place to change that.

With love,
Jamie