Full Moon in Libra: Motherhood, Mental Load + Balance

 I was recently on a panel in NYC about supporting mothers holistically. With me was an OB-GYN, a maternal therapist, and several other entrepreneurial mothers. We discussed the mental load that mothers carry, and the collective conversation around it. And as I sat down to write my Full Moon in Libra newsletter, I couldn't get that conversation out of my mind.

Libra asks us to seek balance, particularly in our relationships, including and especially how we relate to everything around us. This Full Moon in Libra has been shining a light on the shadowier side of how we show up in the world and in our relationships. Plus, we are still in the shadow of Mercury retrograde, and Venus has yet to go direct, so finding the balance we seek is more difficult than usual. Along with it being Aries season, our relationships with relationships are possibly feeling a bit more intense than usual.

 On the bright side, Libra nudges us towards harmony. But since we are feeling its energy under the Full Moon, our ways of getting there might be a little dodgy. You might notice the places you've been people pleasing, overly negative, or even passive aggressive. Because all those things lead you to what I know to be one of the most poisonous things to any relationship: resentment.

Which brings me back to the panel I was on. We were talking about the impact of stress on mothers, and the perceived inequity between mothers and fathers. How it feels like mothers carry everything - the motherload - and fathers get away with only doing the care minimum. As soon as the conversation started, I realized that the conversation itself is the problem. And it's not just limited to the conversation on motherhood.

When we bring our focus and energy to what we don't have - what we lack - we block our ability to see what we do have - our abundance. When we are only focused on how much we are doing and how overwhelmed we are, we are unable to see how much other people are doing, and what their experience is. When the lens is only turned inward and focused on what doesn't feel good or fair, we develop a blindness. And this blindness makes it impossible for us to see, feel, or receive the support we are actually being given.

 Here's a peek into my relationship with my husband: I often feel like I carry A LOT. At every moment of every day, I know everything that is going on with Porter, all the things that need to be done at home and school, and I have incredibly demanding jobs of coaching and business consulting. I HAVE to be ten steps ahead of everything, and often I feel like I'm the only one thinking about anything.

 But what does that do for me, or for any of us, besides make us more resentful of our current situation and obscure the path forward? It certainly doesn't bring me closer to peace and harmony, or anywhere near where I want to go or how I want to feel.

 This Full Moon in Libra with Venus nearing the end of its retrograde asks us: what do we value? What feels good to us? Where are we only seeing things from our own perspective? How can we expand ourselves to have a broader experience of life? What am I doing that is aligned with getting me to my Future Self - the version of me that is in love with my life?

Because here's the truth about my marriage: my husband also carries A LOT. Just in different ways. In ways that I can't and don't want to carry. But when I am so focused on how overwhelmed I am, I can't see - and I take for granted - all the ways he shows up for me. 

 I'm good at carrying the mental load, but I am not good at organizing the garage or building a bed. I'm good at scheduling Porter and making sure everything is running smoothly, but I'm not good at getting on the floor and doing Legos with Porter for hours on end. My husband carries so much, but if I'm so consumed by what he doesn't do, I will never see what he does, let alone appreciate it or feel relieved by it.

So take some time during this Full Moon in Libra to see where you're stuck in a pattern of inverted thinking and how you can open yourself up to a reality that is balanced and true. We are in wild and crazy astrological times (and just in general) and now is THE time to get good with your life without blowing up your life. Lean into the beauty of what is, and reject the low hanging fruit of complaint, knowing that it will only bring you into a greater experience of what you don't want.

If you're ready to blast open the self-inflicted barriers of your life, Guided by the Moons is here for you. We meet tomorrow, April 11 at 11 am EST to get ourselves into the better conversation, imprint it into our subconscious minds, and begin to embody it energetically. Let's take your good life and make it a great life.

The momentum is here. Your next chapter is waiting. You don't have to know exactly where it's leading, you just have to start. 

In honor of Mercury and Venus going direct and this powerful Full Moon in Libra energy, I am offering my Relationship Alchemy course at

33% off until midnight on Sunday, April 13

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